Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Its a date!

On Monday, I had a date -- with myself!!

I have spoken to a couple of people who recommended going to the movies by myself. They said that it was an experience. Generally the whole idea is to be comfortable by myself and to just enjoy the movie, or whatever I was doing, rather than be bothered by what I think others were thinking about me. Agreeing that my own pleasure is more important than some other stranger's opinion, I've decided to take myself out for a date.

I have decided to watch "School Days with a Pig". 1 thing good about watching movies myself is that I need not consult others on what show I want to watch. Photobucket It is a Japanese show and is only screened at Cathay Cineleisure and Cathey AMK Hub. And I itchy backside, went to Cineleisure to watch. Photobucket

I was excited the whole morning, and even the night before. I even painted my nails, ironed my dress, and put on makeup. I had used my new blusher, which I've ordered online. It is blusher from NARS in Super Orgasm. Yes, Orgasm is not enough for me, must Super Orgasm. Actually the fact is that I kiasu and thought that Super Orgasm is better Orgasm. The difference between the 2 colours is that Super Orgasm has more golden sparkles or flakes than Orgasm. The colour is nice, but it resembles my steal from The Body Shop warehouse sale. I regretted being kiasu. Photobucket

Although watching movie alone a small thing, not everyone is able to do it. Like me, I am 26 this year and it is the first time I am going to the movies myself. It is just like eating alone. For many of us, me included, we shun from eating alone, being self-conscious that eating alone somehow makes us a loser. However, the fact is not so. How many a times did we notice people eating alone? How many times did we notice people watching movies alone? Sure, there will be a few times, but definitely not all the time. Hence there is no reason to be ashamed of or feel uncomfortable about. In fact, it is supposed to be therapeutic. It is spending time alone = me time.

Returning back to my first movie with myself, to be honest, I felt slightly uneasy as I was walking towards Cineleisure. I felt even more conscious when I was queueing for the ticket - again, I had the concern if the people (not person) behind me is going to talk about me, saying that I am alone watching a weird movie. (The title is weird by itself) I can feel myself getting more self-conscious as I noticed people queuing in groups and buying like 6 tickets in a shot. Secretly, I chided myself for choosing to come on a Monday which follows a public holiday Friday (more people taking leave) and for choosing to watch the movie at Cineleisure. I braved myself and finally managed to get my ticket. I was so self-conscious that I tore the ticket off the counter myself, hoping that the people behind me will not notice that I have only bought 1 ticket.

I felt kinda proud of myself (honest!) as I tuck my ticket into my wallet. Feeling a bit thirsty, I bought Gloria Jeans's Cookies and Cream to be brought smuggled into the cinema. It pays to bring a big bag. Photobucket Again, when entering into the cinema, I was self-conscious again as I have minor concerns that the guy tearing my ticket would think I am a loser for going to the movies myself. Apparently he did not show, or he did not bother. I think it is likely going to be the latter. As I found and settled down in my seat, I noticed that there was another guy who was watching the movie himself. I felt comforted. Photobucket

After a while, I got comfortable and was starting to enjoy the show.

Synopsis:
Young and passionate primary teacher wanted to convey what is life and eating all about to his last year graduating students. As a result, he brought a pig to the school, wanting his students to rear it and eat it when it grows up. The class named the pig P-chan. And as time passes, they developed feelings for the pig and there was a debate as to what they are going to do with the pig.

Children were debating if P-chan should be sent to the meat centre or if P-chan should be taken over by younger students.
The concerns were
- the younger students are capable of taking care of such a big pig (grown up by then).
- It is irresponsible for the graduating student to force the younger students to decide later if P-chan should be sent to the meat centre
- It will be cruel to kill P-chan
- It is cruel to kill P-chan as food but not other pigs?
- It is cruel to kill pigs but not other animals?
- P-chan's purpose in living is to be eaten and humans need to eat to live
- The graduating students prefer to send P-chan to the meat centre themselves if ultimately the younger students were to send P-chan there
- it is irresponsible to pass the responsibility to others if the graduating students are unable to take care of P-chan
etc etc etc

Ultimately the class decided to sent P-chan to the meat centre. I wetted 2 tissues while watching the show. All of the students loved P-chan, but they had their reasons in sending P-chan to the meat centre.

My eyes were actually partially red after the movie. (And my hair was messy)

Coz I cried quite a bit

Nevertheless, I am still glad that I watched my first solo movie. Photobucket

I related to Jiexi about what I've done. She Photobucket-ed after getting to know what's the movie about. I agreed with the Photobucket. Apparently I had choosen the wrong movie. Initially I thought that the movie is going to be heart-warming as it was rated G and it generally a show with children in it. Apparently I was wrong. But I still think that the movie was ok. I felt a sense of personal achievement as I walked out of the cinema. After watching my first solo movie, I find that, it is really no big deal. I have enjoyed my movie and that's important.

I shall do this again! (erm, at a more accessible cinema)

As a momento, I've bought this piggy pouch cum hp accessory. Photobucket

Friday, April 10, 2009

Its been a loooooooong time

It has been a loooooooooooooooooooooooong time since I last blogged. I am back! Hahaa. Probably coz I have more time now. I have left my company, so I am officially unemployed. Speaking of my company, I was totally disappointed at how the company treat me.

I actually saw an ad for my position posted on jobsdb, and I wasn't informed about it. I felt betrayed and made used of as I had stayed with the company out of sheer goodwill when there was ZERO executive left in the department. Out of sheer goodwill, I stayed for like 3-4 months more. I am not expecting my company to offer me a permanent position, but at least inform me about the ad. Apparently it does not pay to be kind in the corporate world. Anyway, all these are over.

Hopefully I will be able to find a company which does appreciate goodwill and responsible staff. Wish me luck!

For the time being, I am planning to take a mini break first and start my job hunting slow. Firstly I would like to focus more on my personal well-being. My last job had left me tired and stressed with a severally outbreaking face. And when I say severally, I literally mean severally. I am even popping pimples on my neck. I hope my zits will slowly subside. Haiz.

For a start, I am keen to learn yoga. I would like to restart having Japanese lessons as well. But I have limited re$ource$. Maybe I should go teach tuition at tuition centres. I also plan to tidy up my room, which is in a very very VERY messy state right now. Currently on my computer desk, I have facial products, comics, disposable panties, hair products, massager, Breath Right, bracelets, nail clipper, files.. and the list goes on. A picture paints a thousand words. I will give 2!



I want to iron all my clothes and organise my cupboards too. I want to sleep till the cows come home.... Aaa.. Wait, I am already doing that!Photobucket

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Went KTV with Shan and Jia on Tuesday (if I remembered correctly, all those sleeping made me lost track of time). Sang though I was really nasal coz of my flu and cough, which lasted for like 1 week and counting. Photobucket I think my voice sounded weird and weak. Photobucket We MUST go sing again!!!

No photos as they are with Sijia and Huishan. David (Sijia's bf) recorded a few vids as well. See if Jia manages to send them to me.

Monday, January 26, 2009

Happy New Year

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Hope this year will be good for all! :D

Sunday, November 23, 2008

我还活着真是个奇迹

Today I got the urge to quote a line from a Korean drama, 十九岁的清纯. The line is "我还活着真是个奇迹", from the leading actor's mother.

Disclaimer: You DON'T have a right to judge me if you think I am just being drama.

I am really stressed and not ventilated. One of my weaknesses is that I care too much about everything. So I am affected by everything. I am affected when my mother relates my work woes to my auntie. I am affected when my auntie boasts about her daughter - which is a daily affair; because there is always a chance that my mother will say something bad about me.

Today I went to pray to Confucius and stupidly donated $50 instead of $2. I was quite affected to be honest, because $50 can equate to around a week's lunch. There I was trying to self-talk myself that it is ok, because the temple will be able to put he $50 to a good cause, because I will be blessed; because I am doing a good deed. For the whole day I was trying to be ok and all my efforts were flushed down the drain when my mother commented that no one donates money just like that without looking. OK, I am stupid, so what?

I am already very vexed from work - constantly worrying that I will be asked to leave the company; constantly worrying that the next thing I do is not acceptable. I don't relate my woes to my mother because I don't like the fact that she spreads the fact that I am not doing well. I especially mind when she spreads to my auntie, who thinks that her daughter is the BEST. I am looking for console, but yet I can't get that anywhere. I try to oppress my own discomfort. But I guess that's ok, because ultimately I still have to deal with it myself.

To the people I care about, it seems that I am never the best regardless of how I perform or what I do. I am always just a spare.

I worry about finance as well. Maybe I should start to teach tuition.
Generally, I feel vexed, discouraged and down. How can I make myself feel better? By improving myself holistically? Or I shall just hack care? My heart hurts.

Sunday, October 26, 2008

27 Oct 2008

Smile, it is 27 Oct 2008. Yes, it is my birthday today. 1 year older, hopefully 1 year wiser. :)

For the first few hours of my birthday, I was doing this:
and

Not as pro as Xiaxue, but I tried. Sister said there were too many blank spaces. =/ I was worried that my crystals will not be enough so spaced out the crystals.

When my sister saw me pasting the crystals
Sis: You learning from Xiaxue ar?
Me: Something like that. *Pause* No, it is learning from her.

I must admit that although I am not a fan of Xiaxue, she does have some good ideas and I think decorating gadgets with crystals is one of them. After my trying, I think it is quite fun, just that it takes up quite a bit of time. I am not decorating my phone because I am starting to develop 虚荣心, meaning I am keen to change phone, not because it is not functioning but because I want a new phone. =X Still byo-ing for a good phone. Jiexi suggested getting a business phone. *considering*

In the afternoon, went Jack's Place for lunch with Mummy and Shimei. Why Jack's Place? Coz I figured out that I have limited oriental choices. Afterall how wrong meat can go wrong? Hahah..

In the morning
Mummy: What you want to eat?
Me: Aaa.. We go eat lor mee lah..
Mummy: You can eat lor mee meh?
Me: Why cannot?
Mummy: I don't know what ingredients they use.
Me: Erm.. Ok loh. Then we go eat Jack's Place loh.

Me and Mummy at Jack's Place

My Latte

Shimei's bag (not very pretty but she like =.=")

My 2nd birthday kiss :D First was from mummy. (pardon my out-of-bed hair)

AWWW~~~ So cute! (pardon my messy bed)

I 自恋-ed

Met Jiexi for dinner :D

Eating desserts at Anderson's


We love each other! (No we are both not lesbians and we will never be)
I told Jiexi that I look like 烧鸡 and she 白斩鸡. =.="
Modified version: I am 卤蛋 and she is 水煮蛋. Hahah~

My present from Jiexi (thanx gal! :D)

Our desserts. *yum!*

What do I do when I get home? Give my Hersheys Baby some tender loving care!
Aaa.. NG1. Can't see Hersheys

NG 2. No full pic of Hersheys

NG3. Blur pic

NG4. both our faces got cut

Yeah! Finally a more decent pic!
PS: I was wearing green contacts but apparently not obvious.

Cake cutting time!
Me with my cake :)

Mummy and me

Me and Shimei

Thank you all for your wishes! :)

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

I am not ok

It is 2.20am in the morning and I am still not asleep. A sign that I am uncomfortable and stressed.

Uncomfortable because today is the first day I returned back to work. Maybe because I have sat the whole day, my lower abdomen feels swollen. My inner (my womb maybe?) is hurting as well. I might have caught the flu bug from my sister, so my nose is a bit runny. My back aches too.

Stressed apparently because of work. I feel that everyone 等著看我死, which might be true in my company's context. The people I am constantly in contact with have a tendency to harp on one's errors. Apparently I made many. Basically, there are no room for errors. Even a careless mistake can be exaggerated and harped on pretty constantly. And news spread very fast and efficiently.

I was told since young that everyone makes mistakes, as long as you don't repeat them, it is fine. Now things are different. To begin with, don't even make mistakes. I am trying so hard not to make any mistakes, but apparently in vain. For certain issues, I am only given time to do it right the first time.

I am also very worried about "under currents" in the company. I am unsure if I will one day be backstabbed. And I am not ventilated -- I talk lesser to people about my problems. Who can I turn to anyway? I used to believe that "Life sucks because you made it suck"; but now, somehow, I am more inclined towards believing that "Life sucks". Haiz. I am stressed. :(

PS: When I say I am stress, I am really stressed. It takes quite a bit for me to admit that I am stressed.

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Heard 《你不是真正的快乐》 from Huishan's blog. Went to find the lyrics online. Feel that I can relate to the song.

人 群中 哭著 你只想變成透明的顏色
你再也不會夢 或痛 或心動了
你已經決定了 你已經決定了

你 靜靜 忍著 緊緊把昨天在拳心握著
而回憶越是甜 就是 越傷人了
越是在 手心留下 密密麻麻 深深淺淺 的刀割

你不是真正的快樂 你的笑只是你穿的保護色
你決定不恨了 也決定不愛了
把你的靈魂關在永遠鎖上的軀殼

這 世界 笑了 於是妳合群的一起笑了
當生存是規則 不是 你的選擇
於是妳 含著眼淚 飄飄盪盪 跌跌撞撞 的走著

你不是真正的快樂 你的笑只是你穿的保護色
你決定不恨了 也決定不愛了
把你的靈魂關在永遠鎖上的軀殼

你不是真正的快樂 你的傷從不肯完全的癒合
我站在你左側 卻像隔著銀河
難道就真的抱著遺憾一直到老了 然後才後悔著

你值得真正的快樂 你應該脫下你穿的保護色
為什麼失去了 還要被懲罰呢
能不能就讓 悲傷全部 結束在此刻 重新開始活著

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Oh yeah!

I just went for my checkup today. The lab results shows that I am NOT suffering from Endometriosis. OH YEAH! Meaning I need not go through long term medication and injections.

From my operation, 2 left ovarian cystic fragments 2.3 and 4.0cm, together with 4.0 X 3.5 X 2.0cm were removed. The lab test showed them to be serous cystadenofibroma. Very chim right. I also think so.

Serous cystadenofibroma is simply serous cystadenoma with fibroma. Meaning it is a combination cyst. Serous cystadenoma is one of the commonest non-cancerous cysts, among 60 different types.

Serous cystadenoma contain fluid rich in protein, resembling blood serum; often there are papillary or finger-like growths inside the cyst wall. In 15% of patients, cysts are found in both ovaries. The risk of developing into cancer at a later stage is as high as 30%.

Source: Handout from Dr Fong


I am glad that my cyst is removed early.